Congratulations on your engagement, and welcome to the Catholic Engaged Encounter of the Lower Hudson Valley Community! Our community has been serving the New York / Connecticut / New Jersey tri-state area since 1975. Most of the couples that attend our weekends live in the tri-state area, but we warmly welcome any engaged Catholic couple who needs to complete a marriage preparation or pre-cana program to fulfill diocesan requirements.
Our community currently hosts multiple weekends per year. We have three presenting team couples and several volunteer couples who give their time to share the gift of marriage with engaged couples. Our weekends are held at Mount Alvernia Retreat Center in Wappingers Falls, NY or at Luminosa Conference Center in Hyde Park, NY.
Marriage preparation classes with Catholic Engaged Encounter consist of an in-person weekend retreat to prepare couples for a life as husband and wife. Our retreats are led by a team of married couples and incorporate presentations, self-reflection and couple’s dialogue.
Catholic Engaged Encounter weekend retreats provide two days of marriage preparation. Mass is also an important part of the weekend. Couples have separate overnight accommodations at a peaceful retreat center away from the outside world to focus on each other as they prepare for marriage See the reservation section below for more details.
FOCCUS is not part of the Catholic Engaged Encounter program. The FOCCUS survey should be completed and the results thereof should be discussed with your priest / diocese and representative before you attend the Catholic Engaged Encounter weekend.
Yes, Catholic Engaged Encounter is designed as a retreat for couples planning to be married in the Catholic Church. The retreat is a great compliment to pre-marriage inventories. You do not have to take a Pre-cana class if you attend a CEE weekend. An important gift of the weekend-long retreat to engaged couples is an experience of the presenting couples as a living model. Content is presented with a minimum of teaching and a maximum of shared lived experiences of the concepts being discussed. The retreat emphasizes the message that Christian marriage is an ongoing relationship that needs and deserves constant attention and commitment.
Catholic Engaged Encounter weekends satisfy the marriage preparation requirements from the Archdiocese of New York as well as other Dioceses. Catholic Engaged Encounter is officially recognized by the Pontifical Council for the Laity. Watch our YouTube video “Got Marriage Prep?” which explains more about our program – Got Marriage Prep?
Your priest always has the final say on what he will accept for your marriage preparation. Please check with the priest who will officiate at your wedding before registering. At the conclusion of the weekend, you will receive a certificate to give to your priest verifying your participation.
We recommend the using the “earlier the better” policy. Many parishes require you to start marriage prep at least 6 months in advance. As soon as you are engaged, or even considering engagement, it is the right time to attend a retreat. By attending early, you can discover areas of growth necessary in your relationship, determine if engagement and marriage is right for you and avoid the last-minute hassles of attending a retreat while trying to do everything else your wedding day entails.
Catholic Engaged Encounter is designed to provide couples getting married the tools needed for a successful marriage. The retreat is open to any engaged couple wanting to prepare for a deeper, more meaningful life together in a marriage recognized by the Catholic Church according to its Church law.
Catholic Engaged Encounter is beneficial and supportive to interfaith couples.
Weekends are $450 per couple.
The retreat is not group therapy, instead, it provides private one-on-one time for the couple to learn about each other and marriage based on 5 major themes: The Family we Grew Up In, Sacramental Marriage, Communications, Intimacy – more than just sex, and Values. Couples learn about these 5 major themes through a series of presentations given by married couples. After each presentation, both fiances are given time to individually reflect and write on the topic covered. Couples then are given time to privately reflect as a couple. Couples are never required to share with the group.
We suggest you bring the following items with you:
- Wear comfortable casual clothing;
- Any snack or drink items for your own personal consumption
Weekends start promptly on Saturday at 9:00 AM., so please plan to arrive between 8:00 – 8:30 AM.
Weekends end on Sunday at 4:00 PM
Each couple will receive two workbooks to use throughout the retreat. These are yours to keep. The workbook provides an outline of the retreat and topics covered. Due to varying factors, such as meal times, slight differences in presenter’s length on topics, we are unable to provide exact timing of each presentation. Most presentations, individual reflection and couple reflection time total about 60-90 minutes.
YES, it is very important that you stay for the entire retreat. If you arrive late or leave early, you will miss important parts of the retreat experience, and we will not be able to give you your certificate of completion of the retreat.
Yes, we do ask that you observe a few basic rules.
- Please refrain from the use of alcohol and illegal drugs.
- Please respect this is a Catholic retreat – we ask that you dress appropriately. Gentlemen, please no hats in the Chapel.
- Please remember the weekend is presented at a Catholic facility and be respectful of your surroundings.
- No pets are allowed at the retreat center
- While CEE recognizes that couples may already be living together, you will not be permitted to share a room with your fiance on the weekend. Everyone is expected to sleep in the room to which they are assigned.
- Please do not leave the weekend for any reason, unless an emergency arises. If you need to leave, please speak to one of the team members.
Dress for the entire weekend is casual. Please dress comfortably. We will attend Mass during the weekend, however casual attire is acceptable.
Catholic Engaged Encounter is a smoke free environment and, due to state law, all of our facilities prohibit smoking, including the use of e-cigarettes. Additionally, as a sign of respect, we ask that you please refrain from using e-cigarettes or vaping inside or outside of the facilities as well.
Planning a wedding can be a fun and exciting time. It can also be stressful. Catholic Engaged Encounter offers a weekend-long retreat away from the hustle and bustle of life, where you can focus on each other, your relationship, and what it means to become a sacrament. While couples spend the majority of the retreat together – there is not much free time. Couples should plan to start their day a little earlier and work a little later than they typically would on an average weekend at home.
Catholic Engaged Encounter offers a weekend-long retreat away from the hustle and bustle of life, where you can focus on each other, your relationship, and what it means to become a sacrament. As such we ask that couples refrain from using electronic devices as much as possible – including cell phones.
No, the purpose of the Catholic Engaged Encounter weekend is to interact with and talk with your fiance or fiancee about issues you may not have already discussed. If your fiance or fiancee is not present, you will be unable to complete the program.
Additional Catholic Engaged Encounter weekends are held in nearby dioceses. Check other CEE communities for additional locations and dates on the National website at engagedencounter.com.
Once a weekend is full, a waiting list is generated in date-order of requests received. If there are cancellations on the full weekend, slots will be filled in the order of requests received. Contact the Reservation Couple at 845-298-4772 with any questions.
COVID-19: For the safety of our engaged and team couples, we will observe New York State and CDC recommendations and guidelines. In addition, each person will have a single occupancy room. All couples in attendance are required to wear a mask as well.
Payment for the overnight weekend covers lodging on Saturday night, meals on Saturday (2) and Sunday (2), and all materials. Breakfast is not provided Saturday morning. Separate overnight accommodations are provided for you and your fiancée. Your reservation is not booked until you pay in full, so to secure your seats please pay as soon as possible. Credit card processing through Paypal is the fastest form of payment accepted, and can be used even if you don’t have a Paypal account!
If you wish to pay by check, please select your weekend and register by completing the application and printing a copy. Mail the completed application and your check (payable to CEELHV Inc.) to: Engaged Encounter c/o Vinny & Angela Calderella, 75 C Independence Court, Yorktown Heights, NY 10598. You will not be placed on the weekend reservation list until your check is received. A money order is also acceptable.
Limited financial aid is available. If you need assistance, please call our Reservation Couple @ 845-298-4772 to begin the process.
Due to the stringent policy restrictions at the retreat center, we are unable to offer refunds for a cancelled registration.
Approximately one week before the retreat date, you will be contacted by a team couple with detailed logistics
You agree that by registering and submitting payment that you release Catholic Engaged Encounter of the Lower Hudson Valley, along with it’s agents, associates, volunteers and employees, from any and all liability associated in any way with your attendance at the weekend program.
You consent to interview(s), photography, audio recording, video recording and its/their release, publication, exhibition, or reproduction to be used for news, web casts, promotional purposes, telecasts, advertising, inclusion on websites, social media, or any other purpose by CEE and its affiliates and representatives. Images, photos and/or videos may be used to promote similar CEE events in the future, highlight the event and exhibit the capabilities of CEE. You release CEE, its officers and volunteers, and each and all persons involved from any liability connected with the taking, recording, digitizing, or publication and use of interviews, photographs, computer images, video and/or sound recordings.
The coaches were amazing, sharing with us their personal experiences in their own marriages. Making positive decisions out of situations that they experienced, and being able to overcome those situations. Our stay at the retreat was very accommodating. The meals were very nutritious. We followed an organized schedule which ran smoothly. Everyone was caring, loving, and very encouraging. A great environment.
We are very grateful, and fortunate to have participated in such an amazing retreat. We encourage other couples to do the same. It was a beautiful experience for both Franz and myself. One we will never forget.
Volunteer for CEE
Our community is always looking for charitable people who have attended the weekend to donate their time to our ministry. We often reach out to ask for prayers for the engaged couples that attend our weekend. The couple will receive a personal note card with the name(s) of those praying for them. This ministry can be fulfilled from the comfort of your own home!
If you have a strong call to serve our community, you and your spouse may be interested in serving as a team couple. Serving as a team couple involves writing talks on topics using your personal marital experience. To serve as a team couple, you and your spouse must be a couple in good standing with the Catholic Church.
If you would like to be a face in our community, but aren’t called to be a team couple you may be interested in serving as a host couple. Host couples arrive before the weekend starts to help engaged couples to their rooms at the retreat center. This commitment involves an hour or two of your time, but serves as a warm welcome to the engaged couples we serve.
You might also be interested in serving as a transportation couple. About 40% of couples who attend our Engaged Encounter weekends are from the Manhattan area or one of the other NYC boroughs. For them, getting to the weekend is easiest by train. We offer hospitality to these couples by picking them up at the local train station.
Catholic Engaged Encounter is a 501(c) non-profit organization. Everyone in Engaged Encounter is a volunteer. There is no paid staff in the entire international organization.
Our community relies on the generous support of individuals like yourself to make our weekends accessible to all engaged couples. Couples with financial hardships appreciate your help in covering the cost of the retreat house, meals, and the workbooks they need to make the most of the weekend. If you feel called to support our ministry, please use the link below to give within your means. Our community appreciates your consideration and support!
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Please contact us if you have any questions. We’re looking forward to hearing from you!